Where Do Single 45+ Women Meet Good Single Men?

I've written before about the fact that I should get out to meet someone, and I read this advice all the time - but can someone tell me where exactly I should go?

I can certainly walk in the park or around my neighborhood - but both these places are hardly places to go to meet men. First of all, I've never noticed anyone in the park who wasn't hard core exercising, and as such, those men were not really looking to talk to anyone. Second, I live in a small city, "a good safe place to raise a family..."; consequently, the men here are married. This just isn't where single men choose to live.

I've heard "go to church"... I wonder about this type of advice because when I attend church & look around, the men who are there are always there with their family.

I've heard "do charitable work" - which I used to do & while it wore me down physically and mentally, I never met any single people while doing this work.

Since I do not like people who are drunk, and I rarely think that 'tipsy' is cute, going to a bar by myself isn't a good idea. After all, what would I have in common with people who 'love to drink'. Now that said, since I love basketball, I could go to a sports-bar to watch a basket ball game, that would be fun - but who would I go with? I really don't have single friends AND the I kind of associate bars - (sports or otherwise) - with 20-somethings and 30-somethings. And while I don't consider myself 'old', I have three 20-somethings (one of whom is almost 30) so I find it hard to believe I would find someone in a bar that I would want to date. My guess is I would be looking at the bartenders trying to determine if they are properly checking IDs! (I just can't turn off the 'mom' in me - LOL.

So, where is it that I should go to so that I can meet good single men? If you know, please share your knowledge with me! Especially, given the D situation, I really want to move forward!
 Thanks!

Lady Bug