Not only content... I'm Happy... I'm Important

And D & I are moving forward nicely together.  We live together in happy boredom most days - and some days we are have lots of excitement.  Quite frankly, I like the boredom!

Yesterday we were both commenting on how funny life is ... Neither of us thought we would find the love of our life with a person we found on Match.com! 

This is the life that I want.  It is the life I wanted.  It is the life I didn't think I would have again.  I am not only content, I am happy!  It's been a long time since I would have said that or wrote that comment about my life in general.  Oh yes, I've been happy about events in my life over the years... but the desire to have someone I am in love with & is in love with me has always pervaded my psyche.  And while I was unhappy for the longest time, eventually I did move to being content with my life.  I never dreamed that I would be happy again... not like this!  How odd life is...

I was made to be a homemaker... to be a wife & a mother.  And while I am not married, I feel like a 'wife' - and of course, I'm a "mom" (better than a "mother").   D is so protective of me & my health...             "You should lay down";
                          "Get off your feet"
                          "Don't lift that bag of dirt, I'll get it";
                          "Don't work all night... they are taking advantage of you";
                          "Be safe driving";
                          "Be careful - there is ice on the road" (I have NO CLUE where he saw ice!)
                          "Aren't you going to take your coat - it's ___ degrees outside" (he's in love with the  weather channel! LOL)
                         and lately... "I know you are going to be hot, so I'll just get some thermals to sleep in" (when he's thinking about my perpetual hot flashes!

I could go on and on...

While we are like most couples & have our ups and downs, he does treat me - most days - like I am important... Something that by the end of my marriage was gone... it was apparent to S that I was NOT important.  So the fact that D makes an effort to show me how important I am to him makes me feel warm all over. 

He has moved from doing only things where he feels comfortable, to doing things because they are important to me.  We went to J's aunt's for Thanksgiving & other than complaining a little about the food, he had a good time.  He fit in nicely.  He laughed & talked about football (THANK GOD FOR FOOTBALL!) and beamed with pride when folks talked about how good my candied sweet potatoes tasted! 

He's started talking about marriage... says he wants to marry me.  He says he wants to spend the rest of his life with me.  I told him I wanted a ring (too tacky? - LOL).  Not because I want to show off (okay, maybe a little bit!).  But really, he is private to an almost secretive bent - and it does bother me.  I want him to shout to the rooftops that he loves me.  I want him to tell every friend on his face book page (LOL).  The insecurity inside of me, needs him to show the world that he loves me.  A ring on my finger would say "I love her & she is mine"...  Those 7 words represented by a ring would 'seal the deal' for me.

A ring isn't in the financial cards right now, but will be soon... We went to look at them a few weeks ago - at HIS urging, so I know he's thinking about it.

Yup, I'm HAPPY to be IMPORTANT to him!

I Love You

Those 3 little words have lifted my spirits.  I feel like a teenager again - without the teen girl angst, thank God LOL.

It has been a long time since those words were spoken to me by anyone who wasn't at least 19 years younger than me.

I wrote the words above in September 2010--- that was when D first told me that he loved me.  I was surprised.  I felt "luv" for him (the giggly kind), but I didn't know if I felt "Love" for him (the kind that takes my breath away).

As I write this, it is November of 2011, I can definitely say that I LOVE D.  Yes the LOVE that

takes my breath away

makes my blood boil

causes me to laugh at corny jokes

makes me feel comforted when I am uncomfortable

makes me feel sexy - even at a tight size 18

opens my eyes to see goodness where others see failure (as Donnie McClurkin would say "a saint is just a sinner who got up")

makes me worry about how my wants and needs effect his

makes me want him to achieve his greatest potential

makes me proud of the person that he is and the person I am when I'm with him

makes me care for him and all who he holds dear

the love that makes me want to spend my life with him...

So when he told me he wanted to marry me a few weeks ago - out of the blue - as I was sitting in my office working & looking like absolute crap,,, I started picking out rings in my head :-). 

This man --- this man that I met on Match.com.  This man --- that I categorized as a Mr. Right Now.  This man --- that warms my heart and soul, that makes me laugh and cry... This man... this is the man I will marry one day. 

Act 3 is starting soon (although I won't let it start without an engagement ring - call me 'girly').

The curtain is closing on Act 2.  All the niceties (other than the ring) of being engaged are here... and I am enjoying them.  It is so wonderful to be appreciated and to appreciate the live that I've been blessed with - trials and tribulations and all.

I'm excited to experience Act 3 - my final act! 

Things have been good lately... D has been working at a job that finally pays decent.  However, today he is telling me that he wants to go elsewhere because he thinks that the grass is greener.  I want stability.  I don't need him to make tons of money. 

He is so convinced that he is right about leaving that he doesn't listen.  My guess is that he has not listened in the past & this really worries me, because it shows he hasn't grown... And everyone has to grow.

When I try to caution him, he takes it as if I am not being supportive.. this of course aggravates the hell out of me!  That said, I do want to be supportive - but not supportive of stupid decisions...

We are a we.  Him making a decision like this by himself is not about "we", it is about "he".

Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

This past weekend, D and I went to an amusement park and to a Cleopatra exhibit.  Since it is a ways from our home, we stayed over night. 

The weekend was a lot of fun.  We rode rides together, shared a funnel cake & bought those goofey pictures they sell - where we looked like we were terrified (and we were!).  We even went to Costco & got a membership.  I can't remember the last time we had so much fun.

So last night, I was looking for a diary to write down my thoughts and I found an old one - fro 2008.  It had entries about D and T.  I had fun reading through the old entries... I thought back then that D was a "Mr. Right Now".  What a difference 3 years makes!

Mr. Right Now has changed into Mr. Right...who knew...:-)  Polly Anna knew...She's so smart.

When I started this blog almost 2 years ago, I was looking for love.  As I read some of the past entries I was sometimes surprised at my words. Here I am today... in the begining of July 2011 and I am "in love" with D.  And that is good.  I'm not sure when I went from "He's okay" to "I really like him" to
"We are good together" to
"I love him, but for heaven's sake, I love other people too" to
"I'm in love with him" to
"I'm in love with him and want to spend my life with him".
But the date doesn't matter.  I'm here now.

And here is a place I haven't been before.  Of course I've been in love before, but not at this stage in my life.  Not when my children are grown up, when I have a successful career, a home and have lived on my own for more than 20 years.  In love & want to spend my life with him - yup, I've felt like that before, but coupled with the lessons of life - well this is an entirely new expperience.

Let's take the difference between how we shop... I go for logic and convenience.  He goes for what he believes is the lowest price.  Consequently, yesterday when he came home from work & said "Do you want to go to Walmart with me?" I said "sure", but thought "OH MY GOD!  WALMART!!!!! TAKE ME NOW LORD!!!"  So off to Walmart we went. 

We walked into the store, and he got a cart & an anti-bacterial wipe to wipe the cart (because he is going to get deathly ill from touching a cart that has not been sanitized - LHM).  We walk towards the food section so he can get sports drinks.  And then we went to the clothing section so he could buy some shorts and shirts.  I'm smiling & commenting when asked.  Finally, he's done & we check out.  It wasn't as bad as I thought it would be.

On the ride home, I watched the happy look on his face.  He was thrilled to have bought his things out of Walmart - he had gotten a deal, he just knew it.  I smiled to myself as I watched his happiness.  I like watching his happiness.  It makes me feel good inside.

It's funny what makes me feel good inside...

Marriage Dream

A few weeks ago, I had a dream about D and me going to the store to pick out an engagement ring.  We were going to different stores looking for the style and the price that made sense.  I woke up feeling good.  I work up feeling HAPPY - but confused.
Back in January, I wrote about why I wouldn't get married again... basically the reason was money.   But this latest assignment D has gotten at work pays decent.  He is able to dig himself out of his hole as well as pay bills here.  He couldn't take over all the bills, but he can pay some - which is good. 

I am wondering now if I wrote too hastily in January... I'm fond of saying that when I was a child I wanted to be a wife and a mother.  Well, I'm a mother and I've been a wife.  Perhaps now I miss being a wife.

Still confused!!!!!

Some days I feel like D & I are 2 ships passing in the night.  He comes in from work, we chat a little and he retreats to his 'man cave' and I to my sofa to skip through TV channels for something that isn't a re-run.

Take last nigt, for instance... He came in, microwaved some food & took it downstairs to eat.  He came up a few times for I'm not sure what... but eventually he went back down stairs.  So eventually I went up stairs to get ready for bed... He was hot (i guess) so he decided to sleep in the man cave - which actually was okay with me since I get tired of sleeping in the same bed as someone else sometimes (mental note - the next bed will be a king!)  But... I felt lonely... I felt like he didn't want to be with me... yes, I was having a pity party.

But then today - he texted me twice to tell me to have a nice day.  And not onl today, most days, during the day he either calls me or texts me, seemingly just to say "hi".  I can tell he misses me when he is gone... Yet when he is here, he doesn't seem to miss me at all...

Strange, very strange!

Free...

I was just looking at a previous post from this morning & noticed the date.  June 19th  This would be my wedding anniversary.  I am not sad.  I am not thinking about the past.  I am not thinking about S & all that could have been.

I am thinking about making it to mass on time.  I am thinking about buying peaches because D likes them & I saw a sign advertising peaches this morning.  I am thinking about what cabinets to purchase to put all my platters in that are too big for regular kitchen cabinets.  I am thinking about the dog who won't stop having accidents in the house, so I have to remember to put her in the garage when I leave.  I am thinking about the fact that my boys have grown into such wonderful young me.  I am thinking about my brother & sister in law & wondering when D & I can go and visit them.  I am thinking about the prints on my wall that are hues of blue which would look great downstairs (I think).  I am thinking about how D & I watched Runaway Jury last night & ate popcorn & fruit for dinner.  I am thinking about how D is working the weekends so he can save for a truck down payment.  I am thinking about the hard wood floors I want to get in the family room.

I am thinking about so many things, but I am not thinking about S.  I am not thinking about what might have been or what should have been.

Free at last, free at last.  I am over him.  I'm free at last.

Love has found me...

Love has found me again.  I didn't think this type of love would ever find me again.  The kind of love that withstands pressure, that gets angry and then forgives, that worries about someone not borne of motherhood, that cheers silently or aloud.  The love that laughs just because.  The love that desires. 

I thought this love was gone for good from my life.  I thought I would find a different kind of love or maybe just a strong 'like'.  But the love that has found me is different than the love I experienced before. 

This love has come about through time, through companionship, through friendship. 

The love that has found me has come through tests...
  Tests of our wills.
  Tests of our value systems.
  Tests of our patience.
  Tests of my faith.

The love that has found me has come through friends and family helping me to understand and accept the differences between men & women - the key here for me was the understanding part.  I still get annoyed at D's quirks, but I no longer take them personally.

The love that has found me has allowed me to depend upon someone other than myself - and THAT FEELS SOOOOOOOO GOOD!   To do everything alone is exhausting.  To be responsible for everything by myself is exhausting.  To not be able to share my fears with anyone who cares about me made my fears magnify unreasonably.  The love that has found me is giving me rest and peace, and clarity.  And for those things I am so very grateful.

This love that has found me is good.  So very good.

Well, I am 50 and all I can say is Life is good!  My brother & sister in law came to visit & since I haven't seen them in 4 years, it was a great treat.  It would also be the first time anyone in the family, other than the boys, met D.  I was a little nervous... I wanted everything to be perfect & of course, I wanted D to be perfect.  No ignorant comments, no temper tantrums.  No "the world revolved around me" attitude!  It was quite a tall order, I must admit.

I was lucky and happy to have their help with the party.  I hadn't had a birthday party in 40 years - not since my mom died.  So, I threw myself a party.  And what a party it was!  I rented a tent, with tables and chairs.  I had a jazz band come and play.  I had tons of food.  The basement was all painted and actually, the blue looks very nice! (whew!).  And best of all, I had my brother & sister in law here. 

There were people milling around, listening to the music, and my sister in law and I were busy serving food & getting things in order.  My brother was mingling & entertaining folks with his nutty stories.  D was cooking on the grill (he LOVES that grill!)  Every time I had a free minute or two to look around, I saw people having a good time.  I saw laughter on peoples' lips and in their eyes.  It was wonderful.  I love to entertain!  The day was wonderful!

But even more wonderful than the day was how D handled the entire weekend.  He was friendly and sweet to everyone.  He sat & listened to my brother's crazy stories.  He complimented me on how I looked (which is a big step for him - plus, I've since seen the pictures, I didn't look very good at all! LOL... I've got to loose weight, but I digress!)  When everyone was leaving, he gave EVERYONE a hug - without reservation (I guess the germ-a-phobia took a hiatus).  He was the sweet guy that I met on line a few years ago.  And my brother & sister in law liked him!

Now, one might think that at 50 I probably should only care about what I think of the man in my life.  But the little girl in me who always looked up to my big brother really wanted him to like D.  It was so important to me.  I was thrilled when I saw the two of them interacting, both at ease, talking about God knows what.  I felt like I had his blessing, his approval.  And the little girl and grown woman in me craves his approval.  I am soooooooo grateful these days.  Grateful for D, grateful for my kids, grateful for my sister in law (who loves my brother so much!) and grateful for my brother, who loves me, cares for me, prays for me and approves of me & D.

50 is starting out to be a pretty good year!

It was Memorial day weekend & I was sick with a summer cold - felt more like the summer flu, but anyway, I was sick.  Since it had been raining so much, Iplanned on planting some more flowers - but I was stuck in the bed - looking at the green and red tree tops.  Boring.....

But D was a busy beaver... painting the basement.  He chose blue and at first I didn't think it was a good color,  but now that it is on the wall, it isn't bad.  Probably not what I would have picked for the basement, but oh well.  He painted - and all I had to do was buy the paint (he even bought the primer) - so that's good.   I don't like to paint!

It's funny... when I looked back at that weekend, I think "yeah, this is kind of nice".... Probably not real interesting, but nice, just the same.

I'm just a few weeks away from being 50 years old.  I have always associated 50 with being 'old'.  Not sure if I thought I would shrivel up and die when I was 50, or if I would need a nursing home at 50 or what... I just thought 50 was old.

So I'm close to that age & surprise (to me!) I don't feel old.  I am looking forward to being a grandmother to A's girlfriend's baby girl.  I'm praying that the Js conceive soon.  My life isn't what it thought it would be at this age, but my life is good.

D and I are good together now.  We are sharing my house and making it our home.  We are working in overdrive to get things spiffed up for my birthday.  He is painting and cleaning.  And he is cutting the grass to perfect percision - which I don't think hs is doing that for me... he is simply trying to outdo the neighbors - LOL.

He has never gotten a job that paid as much as before he got laid off and that still upsets him terribly.  But he works.  He goes where they tell him & do what they say.   Every day is a lesson in humility to such a proud man. 

And I am employing "am I being reasonable" to when I'm annoyed before I say anything.  Most times, I'm not being reasonable so I keep quiet & chalk it up to the fact that other than my ex, I've never lived with anyone before, so maybe some of the quirks are just part of living in the same house as someone else (other than children).

He is employing the "not such a big deal" strategy - LOL.  When he would normally complain for 20 minutes about something minuscule that is out of his control, he now says his pieces in 20 seconds and then says "Well I'm just not going to let it bother me".  The other day I commented on how wonderful that was & he informed me that he had to change because it was effecting his health.  Well I have to admit that I wished he would have said he is trying to change for me, but of well, I'll still take the results!

We are a couple.  We are not married, nor do we ever talk about it.  We are 2 people in a committed relationship and it feels good.

I watched a Mad_About_You episode where Jamie and Paul first met.  One of the lines in the show was Jamie telling Paul that she wasn't really looking for a relationship.  Paul responded "But what would you do if you found one?"  So sweet!

Toothpaste

I haven't written in a long time and I have been thinking about why I haven't written in a long time.  Well when I was brushing my teeth, I opened the medicine cabinet and saw a tube of Pearl White.  This is D's tooth paste.  He has to order it.  Stay with me...

Although D and I have lived together for about 18 months now, he doesn't mix his toiletries with mine.  He never put anything in the medicine cabinet.  It was as if adding toiletries to the medicine cabinet would suggest permanency and he wasn't sure if that is what he wanted (I think).  Yet, when I saw the tooth paste, it says normalcy.  I smiled when I first saw it in there a few days ago. 

We are moving forward, maybe not towards marriage - but certainly towards a more permanent relationship (and I'm not sure we can get more permanent than we are now).

So I think the reason I haven't written in a long time is that I feel normal.  I don't feel on edge.  Now don't get me wrong, we still have our days and there are still things that bother me (prejudice being #1), but all in all, I think we are normal.

I love normal.

Lady Bug

"I Live Alone"

A few weeks ago, I had the flu & bronchitis (luckily it was at it's worst after Christmas!).  This gave me tons of time to sleep or to just lay in bed and flip through the channels (& wonder why I am paying for cable when I only look at the Food Channel, HGTV, ABC, & NBC!).  But I digress....Basically, I had lots and lots of time to think.  About me.  About D.  About us.  About 2010.  About love.  About things that annoy me.

One of the things I thought about was the fact that I have lived alone for most of my adult life and while I have not been happy about that, it was what it was.  I was the boss.  I was the person who made the final decision - and if they kids didn't like it, that was just too bad because I knew what was best.

I had my own room, my own closet, and since moving into this house, my own bathroom!  I kept my house clean or dirty - my choice.  My home, albeit lonely, had become my refuge against a world that wasn't always so nice.  A world that I didn't always see as 'on my side'.  My home was MINE - and given the lifestyle I live - focused on providing for my children's well being, including the best education I could afford to give them, I really didn't have a lot that was mine that I didn't share.  And even the house I share gladly with my children, with people who I invite over.  I am happy to share because in the back of my mind, I always know that "this is my house & if someone doesn't like it they can leave it".

But now, I no longer "live alone".  Not only is my grown son still at home, D is here.  When making decisions, I have to take them into consideration.  I realized through all my time in the bed that everyone needs their space - D needs his space, A needs his space & I need my space.  We all need our space to be happy - because living on top of one another is not good for anyone (been there, done that!).

So I'm trying to be more conscious about my decisions.  I am trying to bring D & A into the decision making process.  I am trying to ensure both know their opinions are valued. 

The reality is I don't "live alone" any longer.  This is new for me.  Perhaps this is good for me.

Marriage & Money

I used to hear people saying "I don't need to be married.  Marriage is just a piece of paper.", etc... And I always thought they were just saying that because they weren't in a place where they really wanted to spend the rest of their life with someone - or that the someone they were with was making "no-marriage" a condition of being with that person.  Either way, I looked down my nose at them...

But isn't life funny.  Here I am 2+ years into a relationship with a man that I think I can spend the rest of my life with. 

On his best days, he is kind and loving.  He is generous to a fault.  He looks at the future with all the awe of a child. 

On his worst days he is self centered & so selfish that one would think he was raised as an only child (but he wasn't - in fact he is the oldest of 3 & lived in a "we can't afford ____" or a "only rich white people do _____" house).  (I HATE PREJUIDICE & ALL IT DOES TO EVERYONE IT TOUCHES- BUT THAT'S ANOTHER POST)  And while he looks at the future with 'awe', he never learned the financial skills to make his future come true.

But his best self is are slowly, steadily outweighing his bad self.  And I find myself wondering where we will be in the future, what we will be together in the future.

As emotional of a person as I am, I am also a logical person.  Things need to "make sense" to me.  And as I think about our future, I think about marriage & then I think "I can not marry him - because 'marriage' for us does not make sense." 

I'm not worried about his love - I know he loves me.  I am worried that for the 30+ years he has been an adult he has made many bad choices.  Sometimes those choices were a result of a lack of knowledge, sometimes they were because of the limiting environment he grew up in, sometimes those choices were a result of selfishness (the hardest situation for me to deal with).  So the reality of his bad choices is he has job hopped because when he got mad (or didn't get his way) he simply left one job & got another job.  And while that didn't seem to be a bad thing to do back then, today it makes him look like a bad risk to an employer so it is much more difficult to find a 'good' job now.  He has bad credit - resulting in vehicle payments being much higher than what they need to be.  He has bills that have went to collections - and that means eventually bill collectors will be calling.  The bottom line is that if he and I were married, I would become responsible for some of his bills - and even if I wasn't responsible, my credit would be effected. 

So because of finances, marriage is not for me.

Now all this said, I do want to say that he is moving forward with his financial & job responsibility.  He has never asked me for a dollar and he knows that "my money is my money".  He knows I am putting my last child through school.  He knows what is important to me.  I think if we were in our 20's or even early 30's I would feel like there is time for him to turn himself around financially - but he is 50, I am 49 & the time has run out.  By the time he would be able to climb out of the hole he dug himself in we would be retirement age.

I've built a home for my sons and me.  And when I die, I want them to take the house, sell it & split the money 3 ways & live a happy life.  They know that.  But if I marry, the house will go to D & I don't want that.  Now that said, I could always tell the kids to sell the house & split the money with D.  My boys would do that (I think).  The only way I would feel differently is if D miraculously was able to take out a loan to buy 1/2 of the house from me.  Then I would leave 1/2 to him & have the kids split the rest of it.

But for now - marriage is out - because of this house.  Because I am not willing to loose what I have built for my kids and myself all because I love someone who made bad choices before I met him (regardless of the reason for the bad choices).

Does that make me terrible???????  Or just overly logical??????

PLUS---why am I worried about this?  He hasn't asked me to marry him! 

Lord Have Mercy, I'm borrowing trouble!

A Late & Wonderful Christmas Gift

Today I spent lots of time talking with A (my youngest).  I shared the plans I have for the house & he shared the plans he has for his life.  I love listening to him... he is so full of life and hopefulness.

During our conversations every now & again D would pop in and comment on something.  Well one was on The Green Hornet movie & saying that he wants to tape the series tomorrow.  A told him that he would look for the series on-line.  D was appreciative...

So here's the thing - the part that makes me think God is showing me that there is hope for D & my kids... A just looked for the series on-line.  He found it & purchased it - WITHOUT me asking!  Without me prodding.  He did it because he didn't get D anything for Christmas & decided that this would be a good (albeit late) Christmas gift!  And he didn't come in & ask me if I thought buying it would be a good idea.  He simply bought it on-line and told me it would be here by Wednesday!  I am so happy!  This shows me that A is learning to like D - which means D is being good to A (just as he promised!).

Wow, just wow!

Christmas 2010

What a difference a year makes...

I can't even begin to write about everything that has happened in 2010.  Some good, some not so good, some lousy & some downright bad.  So let me focus on the last few important days...  Christmas Eve, Christmas Day & the Day After Christmas...



My Church's Altar

 Christmas Eve...
I sang Oh Holy Night at this mass.  It is the first time I sang a solo on Christmas eve.  Other than not being able to find my first note, I think it sounded okay.  There were not a lot of people at mass - or I guess I should say that there were not as many people as usual.  But there were two people there that are so very important to me - D and my "baby boy" J.  I watched them sit together and talk before mass started.  During the sign of peace, they both came up to me.  At the end of mass, we had our picture taken together in front of the alter.  It was wonderful, simply wonderful to have them there with me.  I am lucky to have a parish that feels so much like family - but even so, it doesn't take the place of having family with me, praying with me, singing with me, celebrating God's love with me - nope, nothing takes the place of that.  It was the best gift I have been given in a long while. 










It's titled "Faith, Hope & Love", hmmm... is there a message in there?

Christmas Day... Slept in late - until 11 - Woo Hoo!!!  (first time in 30 years I was not up at 7 a.m. or so!)  D gave me wonderful pearl earrings & this beautiful picture.  I love both the pearls and the picture, but the picture will forever hold a special place in my heart.  



You see, D&I were in the mall a few weeks before Christmas & I saw the picture & told him I loved it & that I was going to save & get it after the holidays.  During that conversation he didn't appear to be listening to me & I chalked it up to the fact that "art really isn't his thing".  I remember being annoyed and thinking - for all the time I have patiently and attentively listened to him talk about the things he likes, he has some nerve not listening to me talk about something I like.  So on Christmas when I opened the wrapped package & found the picture I was really taken aback.  This picture is beautiful yes, but it reminds me that even though I don't think D is always listening, apparently I'm wrong about that.  Now, I'm not saying we're the perfect couple because of the picture, but when I get annoyed that I think he isn't listening, I just go in the dining room & look at the picture & I take a step back & think "well, MAYBE I'm wrong".  Having to eat crow every now and again  -even if I am the only one at the table - pushes me off my high horse - & perhaps that is a good thing.



The Day After Christmas... I cooked & the Js came to visit.  We had dinner in my dining room at my wonderfully set table...  I was so thrilled to have found my table cloth (yes, I'm learning to be happy about the small things in life.)  Dinner was nice - lots of good conversation & laughter. D & the Js got along well - & this warms my heart.  I could have just sat there and listened to them talk and laugh.  I've waited a long time for that.  And when A was able to get away from work, D was still happy, sweet and friendly.  Rather than being stressed about us all being together, I took a long sigh of relief & I enjoyed myself.  And my kids enjoyed themselves & D enjoyed himself.  It was a day that I found myself thinking "God is so good" & "I'm glad I didn't throw him out, I'm glad I believed in him, in us and in HIM."  

I love a beautiful table



Mercy is being shown to me.  If the 3 days around Christmas are any indication of 2011, it is going to be a wonderful year, and yes, God is indeed good!